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Lovely. When was this? Is The Rusty Nail still there . . . and can we go?

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Yes, darling!

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So many good things in your comment! Dancing and lessons, doing things with one's betters, happiness is contagious! And that wonderful phrase, "the tango scowl"! Thanks, Dan.

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Yes, ballroom dancing is a wonderful way to partner dance . . . and challenge one's skills!

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What a lovely piece, Catherine. I enjoyed learning about your dance history, and I found your comments very thoughtful.

Getting in sync with your partner certainly is a form of closeness. Among serious Argentine tango dancers, there's a additional form of closeness: synchronizing your breath. I never did acheive that form but it's a beautiful idea.

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Oh, I love that idea: synchronous breath! Might try it even off the dance floor . . .

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What a sweet story about you and your future husband! A three-minute affair became a 30-year affair.

Someone said to me recently that in the old days, everyone danced and nobody took lessons. Now, nobody dances and everybody takes lessons. You seem to be the rare exception.

I think your comment about dancing only with better dancers applies to everything in life. Surrounding yourself with your superiors makes you better. When you aspire to something, seek out your betters.

One of the most important elements of dancing, I think, is enjoying yourself. Or at least appearing to enjoy yourself. Happiness is contagious, especially to people who you are touching. If you can't walk away feeling a little happier, you probably won't keep it up. The tango scowl is overrated.

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Love at first dance ...

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I could feel he loved me . . .

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It's actually very beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

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I was hoping for this ending! All beautifully written as usual. Dance experiences I recall with happiness occurred in a large barn like structure in Stowe Vermont called The Rusty Nail. Partner or not, we all ended up dancing as I prefer -- first with one person done with another then alone, separate yet together, spontaneously, with shared laughter, occasional moments of brilliance, and much joy.

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Oops, replied above!

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Taking up Cajun and zydeco dancing turned out to be the best life decision I ever made!

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I have been involved in competitive ballroom dancing for the past ten years. It is a wonderful way to stay in shape, stay mentally sharp and make new social connections.

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