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I have three sons in their twenties - has not always been easy - however, as time goes by things improve. They always need us don't they, no matter what?

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Well, as time marches on, we come to need them as well. Especially when they have children whom we need to see!

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"We do things together, celebrate holidays, go for hikes, swim at beaches, go to restaurants, loll in hot tubs, cook meals. Above all, we talk, and above all, we talk about words and ideas." I love this for you, Catherine! My three adult children (and their four children, so far) are the delights of my life.

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You're a lucky mother and grandmother, Catherine :)

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It's true. But I made a little of that luck by my choices--having kids in the first place!.

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If iPhones had been around during their later growing up years, you would have had a much more extensive photographic record. No matter, you raised three great men.

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Aw, thanks!

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So true! Two adult daughters + two grand-children here. We celebrate birthdays and Xmas and Thanksgiving together, we cook together, we go on vacation together! We see movies, talk about books, we have a four way, three way and two way chats going on non-stop. So amazing to have created that family!

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So true! Maybe you're lucky and they live near you. I have one in Kingston, NY, and 2 in Northern CA, so I have to plan to be with them.

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Yes, I am lucky. One lives in Brooklyn, the other one in NJ.

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Daughters stay closer to home! I've seen this with most of my friends.

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I hope to have the same relationships with my two adult children as you do with yours! It becomes easier once grandkids arrive as they forgive you for all/most of your parenting sins! Thanks for shining a light on the joys of having adult children - and not just for giving us grandbabies.

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Thanks, Barbara . I try to write about unacknowledged pleasures. But of course those grandbabies . . . !

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As you know I have six children, my youngest and your youngest created a family together - what wonderful humans indeed. I was chatting with a client many years ago who had five children and the topic of favorites came up. Her own mother-in-law had shared how she rated the favorite, which has stayed with me; "The one that is far until they are near, the one that is ill until they are well". That said there are some whom I get along with easier and the love is never related to the ease of "getting on".

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